Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Warm Up to Frozen!

If you've got a daughter under the age of 12 at home, it's highly likely that she's been asking you to call her Elsa. I've got two of these little things at home and every day there are requests "to watch Let It Go".

The 5 year-old sings it so much that she can memorise the lyrics (which is a pretty awesome feat for a 5 year-old I think), and her almost 2-year old sister can also belt out "Oh, go! Go!" with some tune, no less.

"Let it Go" performance. Every little interruption caused a re-start in programming.

Poppy went to watch the movie with her father. When they got back, I asked them about it. "You should watch it, you'd enjoy it" he said. She merely shrugged. She liked it but wasn't crazy crazy CRAZY about it. Until she went to school. Two of her classmates kept singing Let It Go in class and suddenly, she was in love.

And since then, she's been singing it every day at home. I've seized the opportunity, like I always do when she's particularly interested about something, to create an array of related activites for her - so far she's done writing activities, spelling sheets, Chinese character recognition, and snowflake cutting, and has enjoyed them all and is still asking for more.

There's the debate of course, not so much about the movie, but about that song. Have you seen/heard it? Check it out on YouTube. I'm not too hot about the lyrics, and there's the supposed sexy scene that some parents are concerned about.

I'm a parent too, and I've got my concerns too, but here are my reasons why I am not against my kids being crazy over this song.

Because that's precisely what it is. It's just a song. It has nothing to do with my religion (if you don't know what I'm talking about, you're in the safe zone), or my moral beliefs. To me, it's just a song. Didn't you have a song you sang over and over as a child? I probably did. In fact, I probably held performances for my parents too when I was 5 years old.   

Don't like the lyrics? Don't just leave it as that - take the opportunity to explain your concerns. There are certain portions I'm uncomfortable with, those that have rude-ish connotations, and portray a sense of haughtiness. The underlying message may be a little too much for a 5 year old to handle, which is why I've dissceted the lyrics and sat down with my daughter to explain them to her because I believe that there are always two sides to everything.

These are the 3 phrases that bothered me the most. Frozen Mamas, you're probably familiar with them too:

Turn away and slam the door
That's not something I would like my kids to do to me. She knows that door slamming is rude, and if she does it, whether on purpose or accident, I call her back and she has to re-do the opening/closing of doors. We also talk about different ways of showing anger. Everyone is entitled to anger, it's not fair to expect our kids not to feel anger. It's an emotion like jealousy, happiness, fear, but what's important is how we deal with it. So whenever she's angry, I tell her that I acknowledge her anger, but she shouldn't take it out on her sister for example, and should sit quietly by herself doing a quiet activity until she's ready and her anger has gone away. So far so good


I don't care what they're going to say (I've chosen to explain "I don't care what they say")
This one is slightly tricky. At first glance, it may seem like a rather rude and arrogant sentence. But I try to explain it differently to Poppy - yes it may be arrogant to not bother about what others say, but it is sometimes also good to think that way. In situations where one is taunted for example, or bullied, it is important to stand your ground and not bother about the silly things that others are saying and to believe in yourself.

No right, no wrong, no rules for me. I'm free!
For this, I gave her examples on how dangerous it could be if everybody chose to not abide by rules. If drivers were to ignore traffic rules, it'd be dangerous, if schoolchildren were to ignore school rules, it'd be chaotic. And then I asked her to give me some examples too. She said "If smokers threw their cigarettes everywhere, there could be fire". Well done!




Watch it, don't watch it, sing it, don't sing it, ban it, don't ban it, that's your prerogative. But to me, I'm choosing to respect my kids' decisions as my parents have respected mine. I'm here as their mum to guide them and hopefully teach them right from wrong, and how to be good people. I'm here to share balanced views and opinions with them.

And for now, I'm here to fulfill requests of blanket cloaks, Elsa hairstyles, and sing along to a rather dramatic song.

Ps The best part about this is that I got to explain what isolation means, and now our bathroom is dubbed the Kingdom of Isolation, which means that I can be in there without having to entertain anyone - no talking to me, and I am not allowed to talk - if that is not a win, I don't know what is!



3 comments:

  1. We have the same performances in our house every evening! Complete with tiaras and capes and tiara throwings!

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  2. Love the bathroom win!

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  3. Great that you've managed to turn something that you're uncomfortable with into a lesson for the kids. I think we all have to start thinking that way, if not, there will be many things for us to avoid eh?

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